Congratulations you’re pregnant! The journey to get here may have take time, prayers and planning or it might have been sudden and unexpected! Either way, over the next 9 months, your life will be consumed by your pregnancy and the anticipation of the new baby you will soon welcome into your life. Deciding when to share your wonderful news with the world is one of the most exciting yet nerve-wrecking decisions you’ll face. You’re probably feeling like you’re in a constant battle with your head and your heart; with your heart wanting to shout it from the rooftops and your head telling you to wait until you’re in the “safe” zone. Trust me, I can relate. The initial weeks of pregnancy can leave you in turmoil. It’s such a happy and worrying time, so for me, I just did what felt right. Finding out I was pregnant was an exciting time in my life and I wanted to share it with those close to me. However I know that this isn’t the case for everyone.
The 12 weeks of pregnancy
The traditional timeline sees many expectant parents wait until the end of the first trimester, around 12 weeks, to announce their pregnancy. This timing is often recommended because of the risk of miscarriage significantly decreases after the first trimester. By waiting until this period passes, you may feel more confident that your pregnancy is progressing well. Aside from the risk of miscarriage, there are other medical considerations that may cause you to hold off on the banners and balloons. Your 12 week ultrasound, formally referred to as a dating scan by the NHS, will provide important information about your baby’s health and development. This information may influence the timing of your announcement or give you the reassurance you need to share your news.
Facts and stats of miscarriage
According to NICE, early pregnancy loss accounts for over 50,000 hospital admissions in the UK each year. It is estimated that miscarriage occurs in 8-24% of clinically recognised pregnancies, with around 25% of women in the UK to experience a miscarriage. The majority of miscarriages happen in the first trimester and drops to 1-5% in every 100 pregnancies by the second trimester. The prevalence along with the causes of miscarriage are vast and are almost always unpreventable. With this in mind, it is understandable why some people prefer to keep the experience private, avoiding the need to inform others of the loss and allowing couples to grieve privately.
Why sharing the news of your pregnancy early could be beneficial
There’s lots going on in the first trimester! Many women experience a range of symptoms due to hormonal changes and the body’s adjustment to pregnancy. Symptoms can include:
- Morning sickness
- Fatigue
- Breast changes
- Frequent urination
- Food cravings
- Mood swings
- Bloating
- Spotting and cramping
- Dizziness and fainting
Needles to say, you won’t be feeling your best. Sharing the news of your pregnancy may help you to navigate those initial weeks, as it will give loved ones the opportunity to support you whether that be emotional, practical, assistance or just giving you grace as they will have an understanding of your situation. They will be able to share in your joy or give counsel for any worries or anxiety you may be feeling. Not to mention, having family members and friends who have gone through the experience can offer valuable advice and insights, which can be especially helpful if you’re a first-time parent. The other added benefit of announcing your pregnancy within the first 12 weeks is that it can reduce stress. Keeping pregnancy a secret can be stressful. Letting those around you know can alleviate some of that stress, especially if complications or morning sickness is present.
Tips For Your Announcement!
Consider Your Audience: Sharing the news with close family and friends can be more personal and intimate. For social media announcements, you might want to wait until you’re ready to tell the world.
Creative Announcements: Whether it’s a cute photo with baby items, a themed party or a heartfelt sentiment, make your big surprise as special and memorable as the news itself.
Be Prepared for Reactions: Everyone will be excited but be prepared for a range of emotions, questions and advice. People love to share their own experiences and tips, so take it all in stride
Enjoy the Moment: This is your special news. Savour the joy and excitement that comes with sharing it with others.
Do You Boo!
So in answer to when should you announce your pregnancy? Well that’s not for me to decide. But what I can say is that there is no real reward in sticking to the 12 week convention. It’s not a safeguard for miscarriage and the sad truth is, pregnancy loss can occur at any stage. Don’t live in fear of the worst scenario; you wouldn’t take this approach in any other aspect of your life. Your loved ones will be there to support you either way so why not let them be on this journey with you? Some couples choose to share their news right away to enjoy the support from family and friends, while others prefer to wait until they feel more secure in their pregnancy. There’s no right or wrong answer- it’s all about what makes you feel comfortable and happy during this special time.
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